One day, when I was about 15 years old. I caught up with one of my great friends who I don’t get to see often enough. Maddie brought a smile on everyone’s faces and was just one of those people who loved life. Hanging out with her was always so much fun. She’ s up for anything, swimming, the theatre the lot.
One day I discovered that Maddie had been keeping a secret from me and other friends. The funny thing was that when I found out what it was, I couldn’t possibly understand why it seemed to be a problem.
You see, Maddie loved Metal music Super intense, super powerful metal music. This girl with long blonde hair who bounced along as opposed to walked loved something that seemed to hold so much angst.
I thought it was awesome. How cool to have a fact about you that was unique. My musical interest was quite unexplored and closed of in comparison.
Perhaps, it operated as her outlet, allowing any anguish or anxiety to wash through her with the smashing of the drums. Perhaps she found joy through the crescendos that built up in the songs.
All I know is that it inspired me to look at two things, music taste, and what others think of it. I was motivated further beyond the top 40 countdown which always has a multitude of songs that stir the emotions inside of me from joy to despair.
Music Moves me.
From Yiruma’s classical ‘ River flow in you’ piano piece, that I used as a lullaby when I was 14 and ridiculously obsessed with twilight. From my 80’s, 90’s and naughties karaoke classics to the beautiful melodies of Mr Ed Sheeran bearing his soul through his music. I am still constantly discovering new music, genres and artist that move me.
So of course when Maddie told me about her favourite music and how it was unusual. I realised she was scared of not just being different but of others acting musically elite and destroying a part of what she loves.
my first thought was
‘ How can something that brings us so much joy, that connects us so absolutely to our emotions, be so easily dismissed as crap? How can people try so hard to bring others down about one of the only things in this world that works to build us up?’
Maddie is now building a career for herself in radio, and embraces her musical tastes as a love that she is most definitely allowed to have. She taught me something that everyone needs to learn
If you want people to be the best version of themselves, and not just a second-rate version of someone else, then you need to
accept the parts about them that makes them unique. They need to be comfortable accepting themselves and it’s moments like those, where I noticed someone was afraid to turn up the music due to others that inspired me to rise above the minds that are subdued by misfortune, hate and insecurity and start
because we need to
Turn up the music and turn down the hate.